There is One Main Reason Why the New Age Community is So Toxic
Spiritual narcissists make up a large part of the community.
The New Age community has always had a bad reputation, but not all for the same reason.
Once upon a time, people believed that anyone practicing any spiritual or metaphysical practice was fraudulent, and unfortunately, that is true for many of them.
Many fake tarot readers, psychics, mediums, astrologers, etc. So many of them plan to scam you while pretending to have gifts, which tarnishes the spiritual community even more.
However, now, you will see those types of fraud are not the only issue in the community. Many spiritual narcissists are ruining the lives of vulnerable seekers.
What Are Spiritual Narcissists?
Spiritual narcissists believe they are superior to others, lack empathy, utilize gaslighting tactics related to spirituality, and will devalue you. And yet they spew “love and light.”
They brag about their spiritual endeavors, as they may boast about how they became so evolved based on doing yoga, meditation, or other practices all the time. They toss spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity at you.
They will devalue you by saying you are not evolved enough or stagnating spiritually. They say they are “great,” and you will never match their level.
Many of them are also involved in cults or lead them and may host retreats that can be deadly by making you believe that you need to ignore any physical suffering because “it stems from the ego.”
An extreme example is the fatal Sedona Arizona Spiritual Warrior retreat, Guru James Arthur Ray, held back in 2009. He told those on the retreat to push through any discomfort, even though they were burning to death.
These spiritual narcissists love to feed on vulnerable seekers because they are their supply, and they enjoy it when they are upsetting them and causing potential further trauma to them.
Let’s discuss some common traits that you will find in a spiritual narcissist who is active in the New Age community.
They Bash Your Ego Even Though They Are Egotistical
The hilarious thing about these narcissists in the spiritual community is that they tell you that the ego is evil and not even to allow it to dictate to you.
They inform you that any negativity you have is from the ego — and that you need to work on it or else you will not evolve.
It is ironic since they are incredibly egotistical. They are all ego, and they do not define the true meaning of spirituality.
The true sense of spirituality is being authentic and understanding your ego has a significant place for survival.
Forgiveness Is Their Favorite Weapon
Ironically, these spiritual narcissists are the most unforgiving creatures on the planet. But they will quickly shame you if you cannot forgive someone who caused you harm.
I understand some well-meaning people will encourage you to forgive as they see it as allowing the hurt from the abuser or bully to no longer occupy you.
And that is fair because not everyone has the same meaning of forgiveness, as semantics is enormous.
I agree you should not let the trauma that anyone causes consume you, as you should always work on moving forward and not even mind those who caused it.
But that is not forgiveness. That is getting to a place of indifference.
Forgiveness involves compassion, and why do they deserve any compassion?
However, these spiritual narcissists will devalue you if you say that because they would side with any perpetrator for apparent reasons.
They Thrive on Victim-Blaming
This continues the point from above. Not only do these New Age narcissists use forgiveness as a weapon and tell you that you are hurting yourself by not being compassionate towards your bullies or abusers, but they blame you for allowing them to cause you harm.
For instance, if you are struggling with mental or physical health ailments, they will blame you for that and say that because you refuse to forgive your perpetrators, you are hurting yourself and have yourself to blame.
They are good at fat-shaming, especially if weight gain was due to comfort eating because of trauma.
It is funny how the perpetrators they tell you to be compassionate towards don’t get victim-blamed for any trauma they may have endured, which caused them to cause harm to you. Accountability is a foreign concept to them.
So much for “love and light.”
They Gaslight You Into Believing You Planned Your Trauma To Evolve
To make matters worse, they not only victim-blame you if you are suffering mentally or physically because of trauma, but they tell you that your suffering is a choice and you are making the wrong choice for your evolution because you planned your traumas before you incarnated.
Therefore, they invalidate your trauma and that you were a victim as they shame you.
They shame you for not forgiving your perpetrators, and they shame you for developing ailments from the trauma.
They tell you that once you accept that you planned your trauma for the sake of the evolution of your soul, then you can free yourself.
I believe you do incarnate with a specific energy, especially if you need to balance past-life karma, which can put you at risk, but you never plan your trauma!
That is due to the misuse of free will by others that may be in your soul contract. I have written about this a lot.
They Use the Concept of Reincarnation as a Fear-Mongering Tactic
These New Age narcissists love to tell you that you are not evolving because of making “egotistical” choices and will end up living the same type of hellish life again, with the same people “who you refuse to forgive.”
They will shame you for refusing to accept that you chose your trauma, so they will tell you that you will have to go through the same life.
And they love it when you tell them you hope never to reincarnate again because life has been cruel.
They will also tell you that you will have to be tormented by the same people even if you have worked so hard through therapy and shadow work, not allowing them to rent space in your head because you refuse to forgive them.
They Pervert the Meaning of the Law of Attraction
The Secret was the worst invention as it is a perversion of the Law of Attraction.
Therefore, these spiritual narcissists feed on that. There is nothing magical about the Law of Attraction.
You go after something you want and only manifest it by taking appropriate action to get it. Vision boards and envisioning yourself with them can help because that motivates you to keep taking action.
Other than that, there is nothing magical about it.
However, these spiritual narcissists will pervert it by telling you that if something terrible happens to you, you attract it. Really?
You were attracted a serious car accident? Did you attract an incurable illness? You attract it by negative thinking, which allows them to toss toxic positivity at you, too. You get the idea.
Their True Colors Came Out During the COVID-19 Pandemic
The “love and light” crowd would also gaslight you into believing there was no pandemic as it was a “plandemic” instead, as many of them sided with QAnon.
They would shame you if you followed science and shamed you for taking the “experimental vaccine.”
And if you had side effects after taking the vaccine, they would shame you for being a “sheep” for that. And they would be the ones to tell you to choose love and spread love to kill any virus.
These New Age narcissists were a big reason that so many COVID-19 deaths happened because they spread it to others while also spreading their venom, disguising it as “love and light.”
I could go on forever to talk about New Age narcissists all day, but I will end it here because this will turn into a novel.
Genuine spirituality embraces the ego, welcomes all emotions, and embraces you doing what is best for you to move forward in life the best way you can, which means not forgiving those who deliberately harmed you if that does not align with your truth.
And remember. New Age narcissists do not want to face their demons and have loads of negative feelings that they refuse to acknowledge, making them insidious, so they project them onto you.
Student astrologer here. Although I totally agree about these types of people, we're not all frauds. ;)
Yo, this nailed it.